Derailed her husband back, I am not happy

 Derailed her husband back, I am not happy
I was the happiest person
met her husband, I was kind of special could not stay at home person, every day, classmates, colleagues together constantly, until later in the a lively friends party, suddenly see him sitting quietly in the corner of the sofa, with white southerners, Wen Qi, like a pool of water clear and deep and quiet so I'm obsessed. I suddenly realized that their nature is not fun, it is not allow me to ease down before the reason.
love, I found him much more advantages: considerate, hard working, good cook surprisingly good temper. a shopping , I pierce the sole of a nail, and the pain suck down cold lump, while he whispered comfort to me, slowly helped me sit on the curb side on the steps, took off my shoes to nails with a fingernail to buckle when that does not work, he should not hesitate to bite nails with the teeth pulled out. This detail was engraved in my memory lingering, every time I think will be moved a long time. My friends say I changed and fell in love when he was pleasant and well-behaved little girl, get married and then be gentle and considerate good wife, son born, so this house more and more to life outside the wonderful world lost all appeal to me. children in elementary school, we are still as sweet as love, he will run in the snow behind my play, but also in every part of our day think hard to make me happy. Every time my mother saw him when the General could not resist a good sigh: this silly girl good fortune to repair past life which ah! I often feel that they are God's favorite, no side can be happy to take no part, and would be so naive as to think that life forever.
four years ago, her husband to open up the unit was sent to the South on business outside the market. I heard there to be three or four months after the month's home leave, I was reluctant hundred, but the one unit that scientists need to hit her husband before the station, and second, her husband said that he hoped make better economic conditions at home, in his , the initial day we played two or three calls, and sometimes a call can hit one or two hours long, a son of her husband see from the video fever, choking back tears and said, month fast that time seems to fly in the repeated reunion, respectively, the flash is more than two years, I gradually had to adapt and peace of mind from the life of this stay.
unfeeling husband, all from the derailment
that day. In the market to buy food when I met my husband love Xiaoge colleagues, her husband who is also the first business trip, chatted, Xiaoge even talking about his husband last month, the resident had just come back, and has is the second to go, that I have not been, she also vivid descriptions to me about the local anecdotes to. my heart was shocked, never heard her husband spoken of how things can visit ah? hurried farewell Xiaoge phone call home, I excitedly tells his own doubts and grievances, may be too sudden, over the phone only to hear her husband hesitated a long time unnatural voice: suffer do you come? to go look up her husband is not a case of. boring day nagging, hurry back I always think back to unit hh too busy of his work's sake, say years of absence may also be a little difficult home life, so have never mind. suddenly appeared in my mind loving care of my husband's picture, I shook my head, all this certainly are unfounded, I do not believe that their most trusted people will betray me.
visit from her husband the next time there is a few months, I try to be patient to looking forward, but my heart no longer able to easily as usual. I began to frequent the phone call her husband, actually found his cell phone several times more than 1 hour continuously busy, the phone seems not to listen to me and the children he the past passion, but not hurt to ask the child each time the situation quickly hung up.
he came back. feeling between husband and wife should be the most sensitive, and I immediately felt the subtle husband changes, such as we sat side by side on the sofa, he no longer casually put his hand on my shoulder, and often wander free pair of eyes look. weekend my parents to send their children back home, decided before going to sleep talk with him again. husband leaned tobacco tucked in bed, long time no speak, I could not see him hiding in the smoke-filled after the facial expressions. At last he spoke: one, we've been dating for over a year, if you do not want to have to divorce! women feel good together, they will live together in the future. I while listening to dim, while depressing to cry into the night, and he has his back to me as a sculpture generally motionless. looking at the back of his cold to hear his familiar breath, I remember a word called broke down in tears only to remind ourselves in: to exercise restraint, be patient. I understand, you do not want to make this home broken, do not want to become a he put down one sentence: the reason is that men only at immediate enjoyment of a large derailment, not easily hurt families and children, and he had reached the point where such unfeeling. son was also secretly told me: I heard him call an aunt on the phone baby, also said some of the old special nausea, and if you are divorced, I do not go to school! a southern city with her husband, but the long-lost classmates to contact a telephone call, ask him to help the woman I secretly look at the situation. in the student feedback information, I learned that she is a good look in the local kindergarten teacher, a husband have children, she and her husband's contacts with caution and warm. I trouble the students that was removed from the local nursery to find the woman's phone number and started texting her constantly, she questioned why the joy of building their own pain of others , but both came to nothing. I finally unable to bear dial the phone, but the other phone to hang up confused, and I played again and again, again and again to hang her, until I lost my faith.
I how to do? think of her husband's immense love for children, I already called the son of two students around and told his father years of absence, a long time may forget us, his heart as a father the most important person it is best to write a letter to persuade my father. very obedient son to do so, and in the letter his son wrote: Dad, you do not seek divorce, I was afraid when the orphans, I will study hard for you and Mom faces glory hh phone content more and more monotonous, do not ask me to consider divorce is not good, that is, sparring advise go pay card, and told me that the woman had divorced, he'll have to think about their future.
I was devastated and helpless I can not go on to suffer, I'm looking for an opportunity to parents and in-laws all called together, to cry all the grievances poured out, has long been aware of and distressed and angry parents, Zhi Ma husband conscience, fear and trepidation, a father like endless guilt, her mother repeatedly asked the old man in tears ; this is not really ah? disease, no one around to take care of the grounds, talk to unit leaders to talk about her husband to transfer his son to come home, see their mouth saying Vice hesitates to look, I am anxious, and blurted out: .
I started bleeding heart so he came back, as the days passed, my heart will be also a little bit of cooling and freezing, followed by a strong hatred. I hate him, hate him son to live up to his worship, hate him I thought better to destroy the marriage. A month later, her husband returned home, carrying all the luggage. front of the children we are dubious, the children were not, he will pick one of a smoking, his mouth muttering One day a few months later when he finally said to me: past the warmth, the family has never been anything like like to become calm, but my heart is always with strong pain. memories of early marriage for my husband and then vowed to derail him, I could not help students starting with a center of the earth her husband, a strong aversion to marriage. I often think he must of said the same woman would love it, but he still has to live up to the final without her? their stay at all costs to keep a full house, but why feel not even a happy, does it mean I no longer love him?
I really miss those years as polite as pie, even with the shy girls are some of the men talking, but remember the happiness we experienced with the time, but this everything is lost. Shakespeare said: process takes long.
psychologist Lin Song Interpretation:
event occurs when the affair his wife could not believe many would happen to them, love when moving, moments memories, family, friends, envy, excessive self-confidence, will make their own negligence paralysis, closed well in the subjective feelings in marriage. Even if a strong spatial separation of love will be tested for the passage of time testing. In fact in today's society that separated the two cases have extra-marital affairs far greater than the general couples, long-term tube and not a substitute for telephone tone of psychological and physiological craving. Each person into marriage, you need to grow in the two live together, in the interaction of mature, open your heart to promote emotional trust each other and responsibility. If the marital relationship itself is hidden cracks, the barrier of space and even make the original problem aside and even expand.
husband's Your marriage may have been neglected by the existence of your hidden injuries. his wife was a cheerful outgoing personality northern women. husband, sensitive personality and delicate, deep, inward, from the perspective of psychologists in the business after her husband explain his sudden change in behavior heart health and is not optimistic, there is a low self-esteem, injured, vulnerable, of a husband you do not understand the psychological is not hidden in his open to you. In life, there is this kind of love is not true, when this love comes you will be the happiest woman in the world, be the envy of other women, such as the romantic fairy tale of love, the husband is also a good even with all that biting your nails on the shoes is an inner conflict, low self-esteem, a way to please the patient to interact with others, do not accept themselves and hide their own people on both sides, some of the success of the Phoenix will be male and have had a traumatic upbringing of men to form such a double personality . this inherent conflict after trauma are not even aware of his own, he also would like to play with people who have their own unity, but in the end only to find themselves powerless, weak, hiding in the depths of his exhaustion, no longer could not bear the burden to please cry, and finally escape and let go, say goodbye to the past, divorce was a watershed double life. When I helped the callers had also had similar cases, the couple married 10 years, the husband has been writing love poems to his wife see meteor showers, commitment to eachother all the romantic scenes in the novel, she experienced and was intoxicated, but the fairy-tale love requires the test of time (even before marriage is very difficult to see out of.) married her husband for no reason, after seven years want to go home suddenly gone cold, at first the wife that her husband is really something, waiting to get a variety of reasons for waiting shirk and lies, and finally out of her cohabitation in the news. through psychological analysis and confirmation with her husband, the husband has to know trauma at the same time do not want to double-sided head who grew up in the marriage does not survive the end he no longer had.
affair after the family needs the energy to re-build a harmonious family, and now for the wife, you need to know marks the starting point after the affair started through an inclusive, happy marriage requires mutual re-create, the couple is a test for the wife to bear a lot of injured heart needs to take the initiative to appease her husband. In the quiet time you can ask themselves five questions: 1 Why did I choose to forgive her husband .2 Now my heart for her husband's needs? 3 How do I know what I need to love? 4 How do I make the other feel my feelings of inclusion and value? 5 How deep are the reasons? How can I fix. On the other hand do not expect full return to the previous mode of interaction, or trying to get her husband back to the former > If you have Jing Xiaxin still unwilling to consider what did forgive their husband had an affair, is to love? for the family? children? or relatives? face? In addition to accepting the reality and the mentality of both adjustment and good communication, the finding underlying reason, reshape relations between the two sides together heal the trauma is the responsibility of both husband and wife.
wife asked how long time to repair, from the description of situation, the time will not be short, and now her husband's divorce power has not gone away. Here his wife to improve their sensitivity, to enhance her husband's knowledge, understanding his deep need to accept the inferiority complex, not the perfect husband, the husband's heart is only open to you, is the real beginning of repair.
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